18.1.07

Fantastic. I don’t even credit my very own stalker. I get one by default.

A friend has a stalker. A stalker who has set up a tribute site in my friends name. Who has linked in pages from his work, his home and also his friends. By all accounts, the man doing the stalking is mentally ill. Hence the stalking I suppose. These are not the actions of either a rational or sane man. However in a bizarre coincidence, following my last post about invasions of privacy, he has decided to include me under the stalkee umbrella and share my blogspot with people.

I understand the man in question isn’t well, so instead of being angry, I wish you well and hope that you get the help you need.

I’ve taken my posts down and to protect other people from the same I have removed my blog roll/links. I haven’t decided yet whether this is a permanent of temporary measure. I guess part of that depends on the ability for the man in question to recognise his problem and to seek help.

5 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Whether tragic events touch your family personally or are brought into your home via newspapers and television, you can help children cope with the anxiety that violence, death, and disasters can cause.

Listening and talking to children about their concerns can reassure them that they will be safe. Start by encouraging them to discuss how they have been affected by what is happening around them. Even young children may have specific questions about tragedies. Children react to stress at their own developmental level.

The Caring for Every Child's Mental Health Campaign offers these pointers for parents and other caregivers:

* Encourage children to ask questions. Listen to what they say. Provide comfort and assurance that address their specific fears. It's okay to admit you can't answer all of their questions.
* Talk on their level. Communicate with your children in a way they can understand. Don't get too technical or complicated.
* Find out what frightens them. Encourage your children to talk about fears they may have. They may worry that someone will harm them at school or that someone will try to hurt you.
* Focus on the positive. Reinforce the fact that most people are kind and caring. Remind your child of the heroic actions taken by ordinary people to help victims of tragedy.
* Pay attention. Your children's play and drawings may give you a glimpse into their questions or concerns. Ask them to tell you what is going on in the game or the picture. It's an opportunity to clarify any misconceptions, answer questions, and give reassurance.
* Develop a plan. Establish a family emergency plan for the future, such as a meeting place where everyone should gather if something unexpected happens in your family or neighborhood. It can help you and your children feel safer.

If you are concerned about your child's reaction to stress or trauma, call your physician or a community mental health center.

19 January, 2007 01:58  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Nice picture.

19 January, 2007 19:23  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was doing research trying to figure out how to enable comments, and when I did a search, I see that you had troubles in the past doing this. I see you have troubles now, with a stalker, no less! I am sorry.

If you have time, can you share how you enabled comments. Because obviously you figured it out, as I am leaving a comment.

23 January, 2007 02:12  
Blogger Miss Honey said...

Hi Denise,
You could try http://bloggerfordummies.blogspot.com/2006/03/how-do-i-track-visitors-to-my-blog.html
They are quite helpful and you can search on it. I also tried somewhere else but I can't remember the address. If I do, I'll post it up.

My stalker is actually not *my* stalker. He took a dislike to a friend of mine and has spent two years creating and maintaining a blog, in my friends name. He's tracked down various flikker accounts, tracked down photo's of people my friend knows and places he's been to, searched out details of his family etc. My blog was really just collateral damage in all of that.

Judging by the time and effort he has put into it, he's either a very lonely, or a very unwell man, who needs support. I wish him all the best and hope he gets the help he needs.

23 January, 2007 03:45  
Blogger Miss Honey said...

Thanks for the comment about the picture. It is from http://www.animationfactory.com/en/
Back in the day when they had free animations to use.

23 January, 2007 03:48  

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